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Apetebii & Babalawo, a Marriage Made in Heaven

7/28/2020

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WHO IS APETEBII?
Apetebii
 is the wife of a babalawo. She radiates the spirit of confidence, kindness and influence. Apetebii gets things done because she recognizes high standards and appreciates excellence.  The Yoruba tell us, 
Akíkanjú wọgbó, o ṣòwò igba èèyàn. An illustrious person enters the forest and does enough trade for two hundred people. It means that one illustrious person accomplishes enough for many ordinary people. 

Not only that, Apetebii is a leader who knows how to make us feel compelled to support her efforts and invest in her as a person. This is what prompts the Yoruba to say, Bí èèyàn-án bá ṣeun ká sọ pé ó ṣeun; bí èèyàn-án bá ṣèèyàn ká sọ pé ó ṣèèyàn; nítorípé, ohun tí a ṣe, ó yẹ kó gbeni. If a person deserves gratitude, we should say that she deserves gratitude; if a person is kindly, we should say that she is kindly, because one should reap the rewards of one’s actions. It means that a person’s goodness should be publicly acknowledged. Because she leads with love, we genuinely want to see Apetebii succeed. 

THREE PROMINENT APETEBII
The Holy Odu is filled with examples of the relationship between apetebii and babalawo.  At various points, Orunmila married Iwa [Character], Aje [Wealth], Ose [Devotion], and numerous princesses. In some cases, Orunmila was significantly challenged by the marriage. In others, he was blessed beyond imagination. Here are just three examples of prominent apetebii who made meaningful contributions to the life and divine mission of Orunmila: 


  • When Orunmila married Odu she gave him access to all the mysteries of the universe. She used her spiritual gifts to convert his wisdom into blessings.

  • When Orunmila married Aiye, she gave him all the secrets of the earth. She used her wisdom of the earth to reveal the way of prosperity.

  • When Orunmila married Osun, she unlocked the power of the people. Together, they worked to promote peace, order and harmony throughout the community.

In every instance, Apetebii is a woman whose unique identity and make ordinary men ineligible partners. The Yoruba say, Pooko nídìí, a fìhà jókòó. The coconut shell has a bottom but rests on its side. It means that unconventional people will always do things differently.  Apetebii is oftentimes unconventional, even to the point of being complicated: Odu was so jealous of other women, she refused to even allow them to see her. Aiye was so headstrong, not one of the Irunmole was willing to make the sacrifices necessary to sustain her. It was only Orunmila who was capable of winning their admiration and trust. 

The Holy Odu IrosunOse teaches us that Olodumare has specially blessed the union of babalawo and apetebii and characterized it as the epitome of success:

Ifa let my sacrifice be accepted
Ela let my rituals go up to the heaven above Irosun seso
Irosun seso Cast Ifa for Orunmila
And initiates Osun, the wife of Bara Agbonniregun into Ifa
On the day they were coming from the heaven above as a team to establish the foundation of the earth plane
They were advised about the earth plane where they were going
They should offer sacrifice of victory , harmony , peaceful coexistence and victory because of the witches
They would be angry with them because of the beautiful things ​they would to do to better the lives of humanity
They would heal the sick
The lame or the cripple would walk
Those who were afflicted with ajogun
Will see the light of Olodumare and absolute victory
The negative work of the great magician would have no evil effect on the lives of men
The sacrifice prescribed by Ifa to Orunmila and his wife would deter evil dreams
Those who intend to spoil their business or work and cooperation
Would be nailed to ground by the sacrifice
Orunmila quickly offered the sacrifice
The witches returned quickly to the middle way between heaven and the earth
That is how Orunmila and Osun achieved victory and overcame all misfortune
Then Orunmila spoke of his priest thusly;
All the paths I tread will give way to success
This was Ifa's message to Orunmila and Osun
When they were coming from the spiritual plane to the world
They intended to extend goodness to the lord of Ife and all men throughout the world
Now, witches of the universe, I give you obeisance Oh!
Yes, the witches of the world
Let my sacrifice be auspicious, and my ritual be accepted
Let my sacrifice go to the place of acceptance without hindrance
Oh ye the witches I give obeisance to you, and salute you
Oh ye the witches
Let my hand work and the work of my wife be successful and fulfilled
Oh ye witches of the universe
Oh ye witches
​- Holy Odu IrosunOse


The Yoruba say, Agbe ló laró; àlùkò ló losùn. To the Blue Touraco belongs indigo dye; to the àlùko belongs camwood stain. It means each individual has his or her unique qualities. Apetebii and babalawo are an inseparable pair, who combine wisdom and compassion to govern the world with positive influence. For this reason the babalawo routinely gives thanks to Olodumare for Apetebii and sacrifices for her well being.

FULFILLMENT OF DESTINY
The Yoruba say, Orí ò mọ ibùsùn; ì bá ma tún ile ibe ṣe. The head does not know where it will finally rest; had it known, it would have tidied up the place. It means, If one knew where one’s destiny would lead, one would do whatever one could to cultivate the place. When a woman discovers that she is apetebii from heaven, it creates a unique opportunity to set the stage for the fulfillment of her destiny. 
10 Comments
Obafemi Origunwa link
7/28/2020 01:00:22 pm

short list of prominent apetebii:
1. aje (wealth)
2. ose (devotion)
3. iwa (character)
4. erelu
5. tefun
6. ete (the leper)
7. odu
8. osunleyo
9. aiye
10. princess ogbonnu of ajero
11. princess owesemubokin of aseyin
12. princess ogbonse of alara
13. princess iya of iwo
14. epo, the light skinned
15. aworoseju
16. princess biojela
17. adi, the dark skinned

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EgbeToyin
7/29/2020 06:09:16 am

Baba
Are you saying that this list are types of apetibi?
I was only informed of a leper as if that was why she was called an apetibi.
Can you explain

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Sabrinaf
7/28/2020 03:01:01 pm

I’ve been going through a spiritual journey. Sometimes it seems as if I’m blindfolded and then something happens. The bolt fits! I am going the right direction but the attacks are real! The attacks are sooo real! Please keep sending out your email letters. You never know who you are reaching . I’m still learning, I will not stop.

Peace Baba

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Obafemi Origunwa link
10/3/2020 11:12:58 am

we give thanks for the way forward. ase! destiny will protect you always. ase!!!

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Felicia Davis
7/29/2020 12:35:20 am

Your scholarly efforts are a welcomed gift, insightful and enlightening.. I have recently purchased 2 books.. the journey continues.. Ifa is transformative.

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Obafemi Origunwa link
10/3/2020 11:13:52 am

i am thankful for your support and i appreciate the fact that the teachings resonate with you. may your blessings continue. ase!

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Eruth Spencer
7/29/2020 05:07:31 pm

Thank you for sharing this odu Baba. Are there classes for those who are supposed to take this path?

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Obafemi Origunwa link
10/3/2020 11:14:42 am

we thank ifa. essentially, everything we're doing in the school falls under the category of a apetebii and akapo basic training.

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Eruth
10/4/2020 12:30:12 am

Thank you Baba.

Marini
10/4/2020 01:28:18 am

So if you know or suspect you’re apetebi, how then do you find (or get found by) your respective and/or assigned babalowa. Or does it not work that way? #oshunsansorunmila

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