You cannot be in a relationship and avoid being in a three way. In fact, it is the tension and intensity of the three influences that gives the relationship its intensity. Let's examine the anatomy of a three way:
1. The individual identities, commonly called "me" and "you"
2. The identity of the relationship, which is known as "we"
3. The divine purpose of the relationship, which is "why"
It is important to have a well-developed ego consciousness, because it helps you to set proper boundaries and personal direction for your life. You cannot successfully participate in a relationship without a clear understanding of who you are, where you're coming from and what you bring to the table, so to speak.
While most americans are adept at the rhetoric associated with ego development, very few of us actually have much experience PRACTICING it, which is why our concept of WE is typically marred with meaningless power battles and relentless blaming other people for things we really should be doing for ourselves.
This brings me to the most important and most neglected aspect of contemporary relationship building; the divine purpose or reason WHY the relationship was created in the first place. When you name the force that brought you together, do you consider the Ancestral Promise? Do you make room for the will of the Orisa, who may have enabled the relationship in order to bring about a much needed outcome for the World? Have you ever asked Ifa, Who are we TOGETHER and what is our shared mission?
The clarity of your mission will contextualize your individual contribution to the relationship. When you know why you have been uniquely prepared to add value to the relationship, your love will be deeper, your work will be more focused and the enjoyment derived from your participation will be as fun as play! This is equally true for all relationships, romantic, friendship, professional and spiritual. The Orisa Lifestyle Academy is dedicated to building relationships between 1 million volunteers, who are committed to living the medicine that will heal each of our lives and heal the lives of the people we are destined to serve.
Obafemi Origunwa, MA | www.OrisaLifestyle.com